The traumatic events we experienced in our life have a profound impact in ourselves, modifying our behaviors and emotional responses, especially in situations that remind us in some way to the traumatic event we went through. 
It is important to be able to acknowledge and recognize those, as we are NOT our traumas and even though they can affect and impact our personality we should always choose to come back to our divine self, knowing that this is not an easy or quick path.
Even if we are not our trauma, we need to validate it and accept it as a part of us in the moment present. We must get rid of any kind of guilt or bad feeling for still carrying it. They contribute to the person we are today, and some of them carry important lessons for our development, so there is no shame on them. 
It can be helpful to make your closer circle and support network aware of them, so they can be mindful and better comprehend you and support you if you get triggered at some point.
With that being said, let’s be aware also that we won’t always find that mindfulness or support that we expect, and that is ok.
Trauma can make us feel so vulnerable, and when we feel vulnerable, we can get egocentric, expecting our loved ones to be extra caring and supportive, and forgetting that they are also individuals with their own traumas and lives.
But trying to find support is important, as isolating can make things worse, so try to surround yourself with people that feels like FAMILY. And I highlight this because not anyone is going to be right for you during that difficult time. You want to be surrounded by people who genuinely love you and care for you, and you want to avoid superficial connections and shallow plans that are made just to distract yourself from the pain. Sometimes it might be difficult to find people that really make you feel supported, know that this is also ok as no one teach us emotional intelligence or how to deal with traumatic events or negative emotions, not our own not the ones from others around us.
Here is some advice to help you navigating a difficult time. These are things that will help you to heal:

• Self-care: Taking time for yourself is a must, do things that make you feel good and rise your vibration. Whatever works for you, taking a bath, having a massage, cooking yourself a nice meal… Give love to yourself.

• Move your body: Even if your energy can feel very low when dealing with trauma, doing sport of physical activity can really help you as it will make you release endorphins which help you deal with pain and stress.  They can also be increased through activities like dancing, creating, listening to music and laughing.

• Meditate: Mindfulness practices help you with keeping the mind present in the now instead of recalling the past or getting anxious about the future. Learning to control your thoughts is a great skill to keep a clear and positive mind.

• Avoid recreational substances:  In these moments it can be very tempting to overuse alcohol or drugs, be aware about this and hold yourself back. You won’t be able to work through your feelings if you are actively suppressing them by taking substances. 

• Journal: Writing about your emotions is a way to face them and release them. If it feels too uncomfortable you can also benefit just from sitting with your emotions and allow yourself to recognize them, accept them and feel them.

• Spend time in nature or with pets: Nature has a powerful grounding and relaxing impact on us as well as spending time with our pets.

• Regulate your nervous system: Keeping your body relaxed and unstressed is an important part of the process. Any of the above can work, as well as developing your spiritual practice; Yoga, breath-work or Reiki are great tools for that.

 

• Find support: Try to do not isolate yourself and spend time with loved ones. You can also look for therapy groups to speak to people that have experienced the same or 1:1 therapy to have someone that supports you during your process.

 
Any other that you would add? 

Loads of love,

Julia

I know I have been talking about change and change for so long, but I can’t help the energies in the sky, and this is what they are calling us to do, since Saturn entered in Aquarius in 2020 where it will still stay until 2023 and where is also squaring Uranus in Taurus. This is an unstable and full of shifts time and is obvious in a large scale if you look at the whole pandemic situation for example.

Aquarius and its ruler Uranus are the kings of change, surprises, evolution, and innovative ideas. They want to do things their own way and are independent but still involved in community projects that aim to change the world.
This new moon in Aquarius represents a new beginning for us, something that it has been cooking for a while, but if you didn’t take the step needed before it might be happening now in such an unexpected way. This has been called the most powerful new moon of the year by some renown astrologists and I am happy is happening now, so we can take a new and fresh direction to set off our year.

The reason why is so powerful is because:

The moon and the Sun are also conjunct Saturn in Aquarius and in a square with Uranus in Taurus: This makes it quite complex as challenges and restrictions can be thrown in our way. Our plans might not be going as we expected, in fact our ideas of new beginnings might have suddenly completely shifted, but there is a higher reason behind it, trust that the universe is leading you somewhere better.
Great time to set intentions in regards of businesses and work, realistic goals that require hard work and dedication. Also, for anything that aims to spread new ideas and bring the collective to a higher consciousness.

Venus just stationed direct in Capricorn: After 40 days the goddess of love stationed direct this last Saturday 29th ( the moment when its effects are most noticeable)  and will still be traveling its shadow until the 1st of March (the same degrees she traveled back during her retrogradation). All Venusian themes: love, relationships, beauty, money, and self-worth have been profoundly reviewed during this time and now we start getting more clarity on them.  
The way we relate to others and ourselves can never be the same again now. Being in the sign of Capricorn this retrogradation teaches us the importance of emotional responsibility, real commitment (to ourselves and/or others), and authenticity in our relationships. It could also carry lessons in regards of how we set boundaries, learning to say “no” and better understanding our limits as is a Saturn ruled sign. Capricorn works for the long run and is committed to build stability and security, so any relationships or creative projects where we were not truly invested in that way might come to an end now.  Karmic relationships are also finishing, meaning that they were there for us because of a lesson that needed to be integrated, but we are now ready to let go and co-create something better for ourselves.

Mercury will also station direct in Capricorn on the 4th of Feb and is now still in a conjunction with Pluto: Around the 30th we had important and probably heated conversations in regards of past issues that were not completely sorted, things that were still in the back of our minds and trauma responses that have been difficult for us to handle. This conjunction brought up some truth in our relationships that might not have been exactly what we wanted to hear or see, but it was needed. It also represented another push for us to remove from our lives anything that is no longer serving our new and more authentic self.
Its time in Aquarius asks us to adopt a more detached view of certain situations and external behaviors so we can navigate all this intensity in a lighter way without taking things too personally. 

Happy new moon loves,

Julia